What's interesting is that GSF's 3, 4, and 5 describe a pattern called "enmeshment" which is very common in dysfunctional families:
GSF#3: Friendship (Family) before all: how many stories have we heard about some family member going ballistic because some member dared to do other than what was expected of them "Don't we count? Shouldn't your family come first?"
GSF#4: Friendship is transitive: if one member of the family holds an opinion about someone, then everyone else has to hold the same opinion ("What do you mean you don't like Uncle Fester? I like him just fine! What's wrong with you?")
GSF#5: Friends (Family) do everything together. The classic form of this, of course, is the Family Holiday Gathering. Dare to absent oneself from such an obligation and it's like dropping a neutron bomb on the proceedings: "Mother cried the whole time, the turkey got burned, and IT WAS ALL YOUR FAULT!"
Does this mean that geeks tend to form dysfunctional families-of-choice? Or is this author projecting his own experience on the whole of geekdom? Hmmm...
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Date: 2003-12-04 12:20 pm (UTC)(Randy goes off to think about how much he wants to distribute this one in other social groups ...)
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Date: 2003-12-04 02:18 pm (UTC)GSF#3: Friendship (Family) before all: how many stories have we heard about some family member going ballistic because some member dared to do other than what was expected of them "Don't we count? Shouldn't your family come first?"
GSF#4: Friendship is transitive: if one member of the family holds an opinion about someone, then everyone else has to hold the same opinion ("What do you mean you don't like Uncle Fester? I like him just fine! What's wrong with you?")
GSF#5: Friends (Family) do everything together. The classic form of this, of course, is the Family Holiday Gathering. Dare to absent oneself from such an obligation and it's like dropping a neutron bomb on the proceedings: "Mother cried the whole time, the turkey got burned, and IT WAS ALL YOUR FAULT!"
Does this mean that geeks tend to form dysfunctional families-of-choice? Or is this author projecting his own experience on the whole of geekdom? Hmmm...